Were you enaging in SF with your H during your affair? Have you been checked for STD's? Did you ever have sex with the OM and your H in the same day? Does your H know the facts?

H knows the facts ... I had sex with OM 2x, never within same day as H. I was immediately checked for STDs (this was a condition for H to continue to have sex with me) and was negative. IF he decides to come back to the M, this will prob be a condition for me as well. So in the meantime, no SF. My only concern with this is that if he hasn't had SF with OW yet, this will push him to do so. I know, I know ... I have no control over his actions, only my own.