I NEVER neglected my DD during my A. I made poor choices, yes. But I never made her feel like I didn't want to spend time with her or talk to her. He has NEVER not answered his phone while out before - she has always called to tell him "good night" at 8:30pm on weekends, 7:45pm on weeknights. We will just agree to disagree on the cheating issue.

I am not trying to come across as pompous or self-righteous. I take full responsibility for the damage that I caused and am working on repairing it and changing the things I need to about myself. I now expect him to do the same - with or without me.