Ok Mulan - So the way I see it, I have to do brief Plan A (currently in effect) and straight into Pitch-black Plan B. I need to begin preparing for Plan B then. But 1st ... I need to expose to MIL, SIL, and more friends. I may go on to the festival (w/o telling H obviously). But what then? What do I say or do when I see them? Casually introduce myself as his W?

As far as getting her out of MY life, the only way I see to do that is to remove myself from HIS life (Plan B right?).