Thank you both! I am going to Plan A my fanny off now, I suppose that's my only hope. Though this morning I told him not to bother living in our house while he's still "friends" with her. But I am just not at all ready for Plan B.

A few more choice words he had to say this morning:
"You're the biggest mistake I ever made. How does it feel to hear that?"
"I'm only still married to you for DD & sex, but that's not a marriage. I guess we'll have to get divorced."
"Can't we just go back to the way it was when you let me do whatever I wanted and you just worried about yourself & DD?"
"Its not an affair because of what you did first."