Please try not to listen to his words. He's hurting and wants to hurt you. Put the earmuffs on. I said a lot of awful things to my husband- I didn't mean them.

He will be difficult while he withdraws from the OW. Try to give him "a soft place to land" after he works through his emotions. Be better than her. It will be difficult, because she is a "fantasy", but worth it.

Hang in there-

Me: 45
Him: 47
married 23 years
Two wonderful sons
D-day for my EA: 8/15/04
D-day for his PAs: 8/16/06