He's depositing more to the new account than he said?

Seems to me, he's getting more distant all the time. There was a short spell when he seemed to be coming out of the fog, but now it's closed in again. WS's often do that when they've resumed contact with the OP. Are you sure he hasn't found some other means of communicating with her, TFC?

I don't understand why you're asking about how long to wait while he makes a decision on whether to work on the marriage. If you're not going to do a 180 or a Plan B, I don't know what you can do except stay where you are, doing exactly what you're doing now, while you wait for the game he's playing to finish. If you wait long enough, the decision will be taken out of your hands.

As for feeling crazy, did you read Mulan's "Gaslighting" thread? You don't see what he's doing?

TFC, you've been very strong in this whole thing and now is not the time to give in and let the adultery dictate to you what you're going to do with your life and your daughter's welfare. If you can be strong for a little while longer, and do something about the neverending assault on your sensibilities, you will come out of this sane and whole. I can't promise your marriage will survive, no one can. But I can tell you that you and your daughter will make it. Hang in there, lady.