He hasn't read SAA yet, but we have 2 copies so that hopefully we can work through it together sometime soon. I like the idea of "recommending" a NC letter. His would need to be more of a "go away" letter - LOL. I can't press too hard on this because I, in fact, never wrote a NC letter. I told XOM on DDay "Don't call me ever again!" ... and he didn't. Of course, my H also told him something along the lines of knee-breaking would occur should XOM contact anyone in H's family!