Excellent, TFC. Bit by bit, you're making a success of this and setting yourself up for greater success all the time. It doesn’t mean you’re home free, but that glass is filling up nicely.

Yes, Larry178's post on gaslighting, particularly the excerpt from that book, is very enlightening and I’m going to be ordering that text on payday.

I think POJA is a good, logical next step. Have you thought about how you’re going to approach it?

Seems to me this might be a behavior that he’s been engaging in for a long time and old habits are hard ones to break. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t coax him out of the pattern all at once. On the other hand, from what you’ve shared of his words and (more importantly) his actions, he really seems to be conscientiously working to improve your relationship. I like what I’m hearing from you.

I hope you enjoy your Memorial Day, lady. Have a good one.