Hi, stopped in to check on you...

TBH, I think that you are reading into it...it is what it is! Plain and simply!

Here's something that I've heard in Al-anon before that I applied to STBX when he was WH...

At the timet hat they say thigns like this THEY are sincere! In my cases and with many others i think that it's the following through that's the hard part for them!

Just take it as an open and honest staement on his part! He's thinking about it...it's come to his mind...and let it go!

My concern is the fact that you feel that you can't bring it up...Why? Is your lack of action based on what YOU think he will say? If that's the case, how can you live life continually reacting to things?

Sometimes...well, most of the time, it's better from my experience to live beyond that fear...fear is courage turned inside out! not to mention, typically what "WE" think will happen will not...but as human beings we hold committee meetings in our heads playing out what will happen...

This is insanity from my POV...for me it was...I would repeat the sitch in my head SOOO many times that "I" knew the outcome...NOT the case...I let my fear take hold on me...constantly reacting...endly cycle!

The defintion of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again expecting different results! For the longest time I didn't "GET IT"...

I strongly recommend that you use that wonderful voice of yours and speak up...easier said than done...I'm still working on it myself...finding that I fear saying what's truely on my mind...but that's when that committee is speaking up...live through the fear...

It's things like "knowing" what the OP is going to say that's one of those threads in the quilt of enmeshment!

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Supporting you all the way!

((((TFC))))


A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
Thomas Carlyle