What does your best friend say? Times like these are good days to give her a shout.

She says I should have divorced him long ago ... I think she's sick of my drama.

Side note: Referring to the EN questionnaire, did your need for security ever come up? You shouldn't have to be competing with every new woman who pops up and announces her availability.

I prob should have spelled this out for him ... time to edit the ENs questionnaire.

If he does the latter, time for some serious discussion about boundaries (not allowing OW to intrude into the marriage), and how he’s going to make sure it doesn’t ever happen again. Frankly, I believe it’s time to address the issue of him not including you on some of these trips and “official” functions too. He’s been playing things loose and free for a while and I think it’s time to end the vacation from marital commitment.

I think the "vacation" is over too ... or just beginning for him.

I am thinking that I don't even have to tell him what I know. He's been 2-faced and he knows what he's done wrong. I think I can leave it at that. And then expose to MIL & SIL.

So - How long should setting up Plan B take?