It could be, but I doubt it ... at this point, I just have to decide if I'm willing to be in a marriage where my H says he loves me but acts otherwise. He doesn't want to change his behaviors, therefore I don't expect him to. I'm willing to do what it takes, he isn't. And if he is, he has a funny way of showing it. He says one thing, and his actions say another. I just don't know what to do. I don't want a D, but I don't want a M like this either. And there's no promise of things to come ... he won't say that he's committed to working things out! He said that he's riding it out to see how things go. Well, things don't change on their own - you have to actually do some work to get them where you want them!