Besides the OW making a complete idiot of herself and saying ugly things about my H? Seriously, she has really made herself look bad, and I have handled it with grace and dignity - gently taking my H side without really name-calling (well, maybe one or two, but not too mean). He's also spent more time at home and with me, so I think in a way he sees that when he puts in a little effort he gets a WHOLE LOT back from all of us (DD is especially loving to him when he puts time into the M). And he suggested the MC - I think that he had to be the one to bring it up, to want to fix things, to realize that what we have is bigger than all the mess we've created ... he just had to open his eyes and spend some time at home to get it. It may not have all happened the MB way, but my H has never been good about going by the book - LOL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

We have our individual therapy sessions with MC today and tomorrow. He jokingly said, "Are you sure you want to go? We've been doing so good, I'd hate to mess that up!" But obviously, we're keeping our sessions as planned. Since the basics of friendship and kindness are back, we can now focus on fixing the bigger problems and creating a stronger marriage!