Oh he's acutely aware of his "core arrogance" ... that doesn't mean he's changing it. His confidence is the first thing that attracted me to him, so I hate to let it be one of the things that I allow to affect our M.

What I see is that we BOTH have some habits that we need to override. (i.e. I am a control freak, he's self-centered.) If we have the right help, and I hope our MC is that help, I think that we can work hard to overcome these obstacles on top of the other marital issues we have. I have stressed to H the importance of working together to change these things, instead of separately. He agreed, but we have to get into that habit. We still have a long way to go ...