Wow that's a lot of money!

What do you recommend I do to "stand up and stop taking his crap"? Do I ask him to take some time away from home - and so I can get out of shock? Can we ever heal if we are separate? I'm scared that if we separate until all the truth comes out, that I won't ever be able to be invested. Is this fear normal?

(Sorry for having 1000 questions - I literally just found out some of this about an hour ago!)

Happily Recovered from Double Infidelity! \:\)
DD1[about to turn 7]
DD2[due at X-mas]