I have been trying to see if things got better, but there are no breakthroughs. I was told about all of the things that are undesirable last night, and I have lost most hope. I don't know that I have anything left to show as good faith.

I dated a girl for 3 years in school, then nasty break-up. Dated other girls, and thought I loved them all. Met my wife when I was still in desperation to find someone to love me back. I liked her a lot, and she liked me. I believed my wife was way above my standards, and yet I turned out this awful relationship. My wife said that either my love was so shallow, that it just faded after marriage, or it was not a real love. She says in comparison, my high school sweetheart got more respect and True Love out of me than W has ever gotten.

I got with girls of lower caliber status (social and physical) and my wife is a gorgeous, smart, VERY popular woman. How could I make these vows and then disregard them so easily over porn and strangers? How could I have been so faithful to the girl from high school, and not to my W?!

My break up in HS was after a 3 yr R and she started cheating on me. Then it took 6 mon. to separate completely. I was more than just a faithful boyfriend. We never had intercourse, we wrote 100s of letters, and I NEVER had a wandering eye, or dare cheat.

My wife on the other hand, has had no such fortune with me. My selection, courting, dating, and proposal all look shallow in retrospect. And the marriage has been a sad example of my "undying love" for a woman. When it seemed so effortless with many other girls.

Engaged-1 yr.
Married-6 yrs.
Kids-4 and 6
W-3 yrs older
Young couple headed for 30.