Gotta agree with Tyk. We had those cycles too, when I thought we had NC - and I couldn't understand what was going on. Couldn't figure out why he was acting the way he was. But once the A was really over, all that stopped. All the excuses, the complaining about me checking up on him, the attitudes....gone, when the affair truly ended.

I hope your W's job change happens soon and helps to bring about some change for you.

BS (Me) - 34
WS - 31
married 12/22/01
2 DDs - 4 yrs. and 23 mos.
DDay - 11/4/07
several promises of NC that never happened
2/15/08 - the aliens leave and recovery begins at last!