Get the book Surviving an Affair. Read it. Learn all that you can about what you've done and why. I don't know you. I can't begin to tell you whether or not your marriage will work. I do know that you hurt him and must make amends.

Read all you can here. If he's here too, great. Learn from your mistake. Fix what made it happen. Don't get married until you do.

Good luck.

BW 37 (Me).
F?WH 35.
06/97 Married.
Three sons...4, 5, and 7.
06/04 EA begins (Unknown to me).
02/10/05 D-Day EA (Unknown PA).
02/24/08 D-Day LTA 3+ YEARS! (same OW).