Great post, Jilly. I was going to chime in here with my standard reply to the kids when they start telling me something:

There are 3 sides to every story.

Your side

Their side

And the truth.

And that goes for my own situation and Hold's and pretty much everyone's. Not to say one person is wrong or right or more wrong or more right--that's what all the discussion is for! But if Mrs. Hold were to start posting, what would she say? If my husband were to start posting, what would he say? We all see things through our own filters and that's where communication breaks down.