I agree that small things that get done every day are great, but I also think that a once a week (or month if you don't have the time) big thing should occur too. By "big", I don't necessarily mean expensive. I mean that it requires some planning and foresight which shows your partner that they are always on your mind.

One thing that I've really had fun doing is to make up a holiday. Not sure if you guys know about "Steak and BJ" day on March 14th, but it is supposedly the guy's version of Valentine's Day. I bought a Valentine's Day card and reworded it so that it had all sorts of flirty innuendo. Then I took him out for a steak dinner at a great sports bar/steak house. I will spare you the details of the rest of the evening ;o) Then the next morning I woke up and made a huge manly breakfast.

A different way to do date nights is to use invite cards, like you get for dinner parties. I always plan the whole evening and include some background info on the location or event in the card. I write in the RSVP section to accept with hugs and kisses in bed later that evening. I attach the envelope to a single rose and leave it somewhere for him to find. The date itself doesn't have to be spectacular - dinner and a movie, bowling (idea would be to attach silly socks you have to wear instead of a rose), a live boxing match, etc. I try to pay attention to things he exresses an interest in and do the research ahead of time to fulfill his wish.

He works out pretty frequently and once I tried to surprise him with a hot bubble bath, candles, and music to relax his muscles when he came home. But he explained that the last thing he wanted to do after a workout was take a hot bath, but rather a cold shower. So at the next opportunity where I was home before he finished his workout, I taped roses all around the shower, turned the bathroom lighting on low, and lit some candles all around.

I really think that taking them by surprise, in addition to our normal daily affection, is necessary to add a little extra umpfh to the relationship. To let them know that they really are the center of our world. I wish I had done it when our relationship was at its peak. I can only imagine what our love would be like now if I had worked to improve things when they were already good . . .

Thanks for starting the thread and am really looking forward to hearing more ideas . . .