Okay.

Listen Hold...you've got what - 6 years before your youngest is gone? Can't remember.

How about you just concentrating on being civil, respectful, and a great dad, while doing your best to improve the finances. Cancel the credit cards in both your names. Open a checking in your name only.

Then make your departure when the youngest graduates. Try to think ahead, to what your life will be like when you don't have to be married. And stay upbeat about that pending freedom.

I'm at a loss for what else you can do.

Sooly

"Stop yappin and make it happen."
"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."

Me 47
DH 46
Together for 28 years.
Married 21 years.