Gee, I still wonder why you assume she enjoyed holding hands with you...and didn't ask.

That would be connecting, respectful and decent. I believe that is what you truly want to be and won't hold yourself to acting from in your marriage. Would NOT open you up to more're already in it...Marge, you're soaking in it, anyway.

Lemme know when you truly want to stop soaking in it. Stop using your W as justification to stay in pain.