I'm only asking because NOW, when Hold is finally being honest with her about leaving her, she is finally saying and doing things that five years ago may have touched him. Tells me that just maybe she really loves and wants him enough to be ready to stop being so spoiled and selfish. Just maybe.

But if he doesn't point out HOW she could change, she might never know what to do. We've all seen people here ready to leave, dead to their spouse, and the spouse changes things up, and the poster is astounded to find out his/her love really was still there, just buried under a lifetime of hurt.

Can't hurt to tell her such things. Even if today he doesn't want her back any more.