The hurt has been done and there is nothing i can do about it now.What has been done is done. Would I do it differnly now that i have read on this site? I most certainly would. The marriage is done in gods way and in mans law.It is what it is and a little child(3) does nt and is nt going to pay the price. If you was perfect or your spouse was you would nt be here either!!!!!!!!!!!!! (hense the repeated remarks about being a OM) Thanks but I am not somebody that just registered yesterday. I am trying and we are making improvements in our relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!