I know how you feel, hold.
Because my H exerts much of his power over me by withholding information (that there's a babysitter coming over, that he purchased something expensive, etc.,) I like to withhold back, just so he gets a taste.
Yes, we're both engaging in independent behavior almost 24/7, but that's the physics of the relationship. For every action, there's an equal-but-opposite reaction. You play games with me, I play games with you.
Ain't no way I'm going to smile and play nice-wifey when H continues to emotionally torture me.

Me:BW, FWH 1DD 1DS
Status: Chronicled in Dr. Suess's "The Zax"