So why don't you dance alone? I know you mean dancing figuratively, but I've done it literally, and it brought my partner to the floor. In my case, it was a convoluted mess of male/female roles, but it got him dancing, eventually, to the beat of dominant male/submissive female roles.

Literally.

And it took a societal message for him to take the role.

Hold, do you need a societal message for you to take the lead here?

I'll start: Hold, the success or failure of your stature as a husband and a man begin and end with you. Are you proud of your behavior today?

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)