I have to agree with DSD: hold, you continually sound like you have given up, so what are you wanting to happen? You you need to talk to your uncle, and your wife needs to talk to your aunt.

If all your problems were removed tonight, where would you be tomorrow? Stuck in neutral. You can't have neutral as your goal in life; maybe for a goal next month, but your life needs positive goals.

Again, I suggest reading, "The Exceptional Seven Percent".
It's what marriage can be after you fix all the problems.