I agree. And this is why I have recommended calling Steve Harley to those of you with reluctant spouses. He is often able to motivate them to try Marriage Builders by giving the reporting spouse a plan to attract them. You don't have to get your spouses agreement to coach with Steve, he counsels you ALONE and gives you a plan to attract the spouse. For example, Steve has given spouses word by word talking points to use with reluctant spouses that motivated them to get on phone with him. Once they get on the phone with him, he sells them on the program. He does the work, you don't have to.

This is almost exactly how it played out for me. Steve role-played with me to get my husband on the phone. Unfortuantely, I had to go a bit more hard-bore than that and move to the couch and file D papers. But he VERY RELUCTANTLY agreed to call Steve. And spent 1.5 hours on the phone with him. And emerged with a whole different attitude.