Originally Posted by Retread
I disagree that my wife is a Free-loader or Renter, although she does seem to exhibit some of those traits. Part of the attitude of "just being natural and doing what you feel" is a message drummed into my generation by pop culture, music, movies, TV, books, college, women's lib, etc. The rest of it is external forces of anxiety over the political economy, family illness, and deaths. I disagree that my wife is a Free-loader or Renter, although she does seem to exhibit some of those traits. Part of the attitude of "just being natural and doing what you feel" is a message drummed into my generation by pop culture, music, movies, TV, books, college, women's lib, etc. The rest of it is external forces of anxiety over the political economy, family illness, and deaths.

Retread, but she doesn't exhibit any signs of being a buyer. It doesn't matter WHY a person got to be a freeloader, the definition is the same. If there is water coming in the roof, do you care if it is from a monsoon or a hurricane? The leak still has to be plugged. Are you sure you are being objective about this? Because what you described, coupled with her thoughtlessness towards your feelings is the definition of a freeloader, person who only does what comes naturally and won't do anything to maintain their marriage unless the spirit moves them.

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