Originally Posted By: Bubbles4U
~WHAT REASON COULD MRS HOLD GIVE ME TO HAVE ME WANT TO STAY MARRIED TO HER?


Understood. I could have my reasons regardless of her behavior. Then there are additional reasons she could provide through her behavior.

But that depends on what "could" means. I don't think she can give me those reasons unless I earn lots more money. I am not prepared to even try to earn more money. So she cannot give me more. And I am partly responsible for that.

Perhaps another woman could give me those reasons without requiring the extra income first. That doesn't mean Mrs. Hold can.

Just as another woman without her history might be able to behave in ways that she cannot. Doesn't mean she can.

The question is what do I do about her inability? Do I let it define me? Bind me? Destroy me? Or do I choose to thrive despite her inability to meet certain of my needs? So far I have chosen to curl up into a ball and throw a temper tanrum and withdraw from life. I could make healthier choices.

Mud So glad to hear about your wife's success. And yours. Kudos to both fo you.


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