Mrs. Hold is very conflicted about being complimented on her achievement. She says that when someone tells her how great she looks, she feels bad that she ever let herself get that heavy. And she fears she will gain it back.

I asked her if she wants me to stop complimenting her, so as to stop triggering the bad feelings and fear. She said "no, keep the compliments coming". A good lesson in meeting your spouse's needs even if it makes no sense why they feel how they feel or why they want what they are asking for. Just do it!

And I gotta say she looks GREAT in the costume she is wearing to the costume party Saturday night. Good thing I am not that interested in sex with her these days, or spending 4 hours staring at her would be torture!

When you can see it coming, duck!