Unfortunately, the work stuff involves 3rd parties and I sense I am going to be made the scapegoat. I am working to avoid that outcome. Just need to keep telling myself I can handle this.

BJS, good job talking to your h. Keep talking. This is not a once and done. It is a continuing process. Give him big kudos for opening up and tlaking to you. Even if you wish his answers were different, you enjoy hearing his answers. Right? So give him strokes for participating and then ask more questions. Get him in the habit of talking. Even if at first it is mostly him saying things you wish were different. The important thing is that he gets comfortable stating what he feels. Then you can work on helping him feel differentyl!

When you can see it coming, duck!