Originally Posted by holdingontoit
Mrs. Hold doesn't love it. Makes her feel uncomfortable.
oh. oops.
Originally Posted by holdingontoit
I said something like "you don't turn me down often, but I don't ask often. However, you do alot of pre-empting. As soon as I get home you say you are tired or don't feel well or have a headache. Then if I roll over toward you in bed you throw your arms up to ward me off. Or you clench up and pull into yourself. Even if I haven't touched you and was just shifting positions while reading a book. So you do alot of rejecting without saying no explicitly. She nodded her head in agreement. I went on "and on the other side, you almost never welcome me. I never hear anything like 'hey, I am in a good mood tonight, why don't you come closer and maybe you'll get lucky'."

She said that is a valid point.

Wow, this is huge. Hold, I'm so happy for you (even if the weekend didn't pan out for her to be welcoming)

"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer