Pretend the fruit "pushes your hand away" as if it does not like what you are doing. What is your response.

1. You can immediately try another techique
2. You can yell out, "Harder"? (you are asking, do you need it harder)
3. You can yell out, "softer? and keep going
4. "Slower? " (what you are really saying is do you need it slower...)

DO NOT EVER MAKE COMPLETE SENTENCES IN BED! ONLY ONE OR TWO ACTION WORDS. A COMPLETE SENTENCE IS A TURN OFF.

SEVERAL COMMUNICATIONS, some good some bad in bed when using touching:

1. Let me know what you want me to do.
2. Oh, you pushed my hand away... do you want it differently?, tell me what you want.
3. Do you want it harder of softer?
4 HARDER?
5. SOFTER?
6. TOO HARD?
7. No words, just change technique by her responses.(advanced sexuality 101)


Remember all of the above. NEVER break the FLOW of the touching/lovemaking. It should be one continuous motion from the beginning to the end (20 minutes or whatever) DO NOT QUIT TOUCHING THEM EVEN IF YOU SAY A FEW ACTION WORDS. You can back off on the touching or touch a different area, or something different or touch differently...but

DO NOT TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF THAT "TABLE"!!!! NO MATTER IF THEY TRY AND PUSH THEM AWAY. ( YOU CAN ALSO GRAB THIER HANDS gently AND PUT THEM WHERE YOU WANT THEM.) IF YOU STOP YOU WILL BLOW IT. YOU MUST CONTINUE AND CONTINUOUSLY CHANGE TECHNIQUES OR WHATEVER.....EVEN IF YOU SAY AN ACTION WORD OR TWO.

Now, which do you do in bed. Is it 1,2,or 3? Then I can tell you those are BAD. Only 4,5,6 and later 7 are good effective and will bring out the best in the other pwerson. My husband knows me so well he does #7 all the time. Of course I am good at responding with my body, etc. I give him clues by smiles, words like YES... etc.

This is how a confident lover brings out the sexuality in a damaged partner or a partner who does not know (yet) or is unable to express to you what makes them feel good.

YOU have to be firmly in the drivers seat. Forget intercourse, practice on pleasing each other without it. Once you get that down pat, the IC will come.


Last edited by Bubbles4U; 03/19/10 02:03 PM.