I'm sorry about the D papers. I know that has to sting. But honestly, you thought these were coming anyway. Don't let them deter you from your plan that you are executing. Again, these papers are worthless. Go see your lawyer there first, but if it makes you feel better, go ahead and wipe your @ss with those papers. And here is what you do when your WW asks you about them.

WW: Did you get the papers?

You: Yes.

WW: Are you going to sign the waiver?

You: No.

WW: You controlling *%&*#@*&*##@*&#@*&#@*&@*@#*&@**@#&!

You: (crickets chirping)

You don't owe her any explanation and you don't need to get involved in any relationship talk or argument. Don't let her bait you. Just let the investigation take its course and let NC w/ OM have its effect. It's going to do one of two things. She's either going to reach out to you again, or she's going to go out to the bars and run her number up from 30 to 50 in short order, and she'll get herself in even more trouble. She is not your responsibility. She needs to learn her actions have consequences the hard way. Anyone can be a good significant other when times are good. It's when times are bad that your true character is revealed. We'll see if she can pull herself through this or we'll see if you dodged a bullet by having her show her true stripes before you had any children or shared assets with her. Either way, you'll win.

Right now, just keep your focus where it should be, staying safe and getting yourself home. My prayers go out to you in this difficult time.


BS - 32 (me)
FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
Status - In Recovery
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