Originally Posted by Gerkaguards
You guys don't think that someone so angry would just be thinking "Pffft, fine, I'll take your money, idiot." ?

That is another possibility, but she would have to be a real sociopath to do that. Besides, why would she tell you to stop sending her money in the first place then? Probably to ease her guilt. She may think that way now, but it will stir up more conflict and guilt inside her. She was using you "cutting her off" to justify you being the bad guy. Well, she no longer has that to rationalize her behavior anymore.

Also, she may not realize you are making a love bank deposit in the same way she might not have realized OM was making love bank deposits when they first met. If you make enough deposits (not all literally), the feelings may come back.

Last edited by jmwc95; 05/05/10 02:05 PM.


BS - 32 (me)
FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
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