FANTASTIC point, OH!!!!!

Hold, maybe drop the whole need for SF right now and see if your wife can start meeting the need for admiration!

This is one of my husband's top needs, and he is MUCH happier when it is met, and it takes so little effort on my part.

You're not needy. Not really. You have EN. That is not the same thing as being needy, and if you keep selling yourself that line, you are going to drive yourself nuts.