Gerka, remember that in her mind, she has to make you out to be the bad guy.

This alleviates her guilt.

There is no reason to look in her own mirror, if you are the reason for her bad behaviour, whatever that is in her mind.

All waywards do this, they all rewrite personal and marital history to how they want to see it.

M'd 22 years
D-Day 08/08 LTA