I'm going to need my stuff and I want to see how we are going to arrange that. I have this feeling that you will destroy it all when you get back--since you are being completely unreasonable at this point. For that reason I do not want to wait till I PCS to retrieve it. We need to be able to talk about the details of this stuff.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't there something in the divorce papers that she sent you about joint property? I'd make sure that you mention that in your reply.

I don't see how you think you are going to stay married to me without ever talking to me, but clearly none of this is working.

You're right, I don't see how we're going to stay married when you won't talk with me and work to rebuild our marriage.

There are things that I need to try to work out before I class up and my own personal safety to ensure.

I agree, your personal safety has always been one of my biggest concerns for you while you were with LT-OM. I'm glad that you are working things out.

I highly suggest that you contact me soon and be prepared to have a civil and reasonable conversation with me.

I'd love to talk with you again. I really enjoyed hearing your voice the other day when you called. Please let me know what time works best for you and I'll give you a call.

I am at the point of writing your chain of command concerning the threats that you have made toward me and the instability overall that you are demonstrating. If we don't have a productive conversation soon I will be doing that next.

I know how busy you must be, so I've taken the liberty of CC-ing our chains of command (make sure you CC the investigating officer too) so they will understand where we both stand. I'm sure that they have bigger issues to deal with so this will provide them all with one e-mail instead of multiple ones.


I'd be very careful in responding to ANYTHING she says about abuse... It's like the old saying "So when did you stop beating your wife...?" There's really no good answer and it just puts you in a defensive position right away if you respond to her.

Your second draft looked good too... Hopefully I've given you some more ideas on how to respond to her e-mail. Again, I would shoot both CofC's a copy of her e-mail along with the investigating officer, then CC them in your reply to her e-mail...

Semper Fi,