She even once banned me from ever entering Utah where her mother's family lives.

I just got a mental image of state troopers blocking all roads into Utah-- on the lookout for BS driving a woodchipper down the road.

Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story