Gerka,

WAY too impatient. 1 month? Try 6 months until she MIGHT be back on board and a minimum of 2 years to recover. The fact that you are so far away makes it easier to continue down her path because she is so withdrawn and detached from you. My WW had to see me every day. We lived together, and it still took about 6 months after exposure until she committed to the marriage again. As far as throwing away 5 years, plenty of WWs have thrown away FAR more, and even abandoned their children. This is a marathon and not a sprint.

The reason she has been quiet lately is not because she's reflecting but rather she doesn't want to talk to you after your recent series of lovebusting emails. You need to cut it out if you want to save your marriage. Since you haven't been able to control yourself lately, you need to post your emails on here and get our approval before sending them. Okay? We're just looking out for you, and trying to help you achieve your goal. Plan A is HARD. It takes a LOT of strength and discipline.