Why don't you write up a proposal for sex?

Give her some ideas of a schedule for when you would like to have it... make it sort of contractual.

When things were at their worst with me and H, that is how we POJA'd affection--something he did not feel he could offer me at that time.

We literally came up with a list of things that were acceptable and things that were not. How often we expected them to happen, etc.

In your case, perhaps you could propose 2 x per week on such and such a days at such and such a time.

Just an idea.

At the same time, she HAS been more flirtatious with you sexually over the last few months, and has seemed to enjoy that at times.

Do you have to stop that? It seemed fun for both of you...

Me 42
H 46
Married 12 years
Two children D9 and D4 !