It's kind of frustrating that the advice I gave a few months ago (to sever, divorce, and move on) got deleted by a mod at the time, but is now what most of the posters are advising you to do. These have been months of needless pain for you. I can only imagine how much you have hurt. And I'm sorry for your pain.

For your sake, please, don't listen to the people saying "Time for Plan B". Gurka, your situation BEGS for immediate divorce.

I've been in your shoes, I know it's hard to do, but you WILL find someone else, someone who treats you well and responds to the love that you're willing to give.

I wish you the best, but, my friend, it's time to pull the plug.

Best wishes.

Formerly ConfuzedHusband
BH
WW (Now XW)
Married 4 years, No children.
EA/PA from 2/2008 to 5/2008.
DDay: 5/17/2008 - Separated 6/1/2008 - Filed 8/3/2008
Divorce final 3/2009.

Now in a committed relationship with a woman of character who loves me so much better and deeper than I ever dreamed possible. I had no idea what I was missing out on and am so grateful God gave me a free "second chance" at love and life.