Hold, I think you're in a decent place. The concept that everyone can have what they want with proper maneuvering is not in the cards for the majority, IMO.

You both value your family life and now that can continue to be a source of comfort and an area in which you work as a team. Mrs. Hold making a move to prepare for a job is a big step for both of you too.

There are so many other situations in which people find themselves that the redeeming qualities are very hard to find. This all sounds like a positive development.

Formerly nam here since 07/31/03 coastal, CT