Mrs. Hold reports that she did not feel close to me and did not enjoy our time spent together this past weekend

Well how did you feel around her? Close? Warm?

She is 50% resonsible for the closeness or not of the marriage. Maybe she could figure out a way to feel closer if she wants to be close.

Or perhaps she was just saying that to lay another stick on you before she abuses you once again or burns you down.

Did she say this statement and imply that it is due to YOUR FAILURES that she did not feel close to you? Or did she say it as just a fact?