I agree that she is most likely involved with someone in Iraq. Do you know anyone else in the unit? Is there anyone you would feel comfortable asking (that would keep a confidence)? Is there someone she talked about before she deployed (before the PA portion of my H's affair started, he sometimes talked about the OW to me, even introduced us at a formal event one time, H went on a family boat outing with her and her family)? Is it possible to snoop into any personal email accounts she might have? The snooping is very difficult since she is in Iraq. I think it is likely that she is having an affair and that the affair is with someone that is in her unit and also deployed.

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. You are in the right place to find assistance though.


BW - 65
WH - 60
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.