I would say that a few of your marriage issues are getting solved. The wife is thinner and she is willing to have you pay for her schooling so perhaps she can work someday.

Many of your marital issues have not really been resolved. There has been no recovery from her abusive ways for one example.

There has been no restitution or remorse for her blowing your life savings and having to move to a cheaper town and having to get a new job.

Until these other issues are resolved, you will not feel good about yourself. Because you are living with a toxic wife. Who does not love you. That alone would depress anyone.

What I want to know is which comes first?

Did you marry and stay with this toxic wife BECAUSE your self esteem was low?

OR

Did you marry and stay with this toxic abusive wife AND THEN your self esteem became so low you cannot leave her?

Last edited by Bubbles4U; 09/14/10 10:34 AM.