but the elimination of annoying habits must come later

Maybe this is where we disagree...I don't see this as merely an AH, I see it as an IB and refusal to use POJA. My DH had a big problem with IBs so anything that even resembled an IB triggered me and immediately drained my LB$.

I do agree that AHs should be dealt with later and not early on.

Me,BW - 42; FWH-46
4 kids
D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006
D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR)
Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007

In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. smile