Originally Posted by Enlightened_Ex
again, I said nearly impossible and citing anecdotes of atypical results does't chane tge typical outcome.

Boarding my plane enjoy

But even those that fail...GENERALLY, don't regret trying. They may have regrets or even lost more custody, money, etc. in the ensuing divorce...but GENERALLY, they FEEL better about themselves for having made the effort.

There is honor in seeking recovery.

For most, there is self-respect gained in seeking recovery.

AND...

They just might save their marriage regardless of the percentages that NO ONE can predict at the outset.

I saved my wife from the clutches of an entrenched seemingly insurmountable adulterous affair and, in the end...WE saved our marriage.

regardless of your anecedote...it happens.

Mr. Wondering

p.s. - I have spoken on the phone over the years with BH's that ended up divorced and not one of them, yet...has regretted their MB efforts even when they lost A LOT in the eventual divorce.

FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered

"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.