Perhaps you two can finally stop looking at each other through a fog of hopes, dreams and expectations and actually SEE each other for what you are. When you can do that, perhaps you can attempt to create REAL intimacy between you without the pressures of what you each WANT the other to be, by accepting what you are.

Maybe starting from a foundation of truth and reality(as opposed to hopes), THEN you can begin to build and shape yourselves as MB would have you change for one another.

I really like how you put this Vibrissa. It is so true in so many marriages and relationships.

Last edited by Bubbles4U; 09/23/10 02:48 PM.