Also, she left her phone in the kitchen tonight when she went to sleep...I just heard it beep. It's a text from the OM saying that he misses her. I'm so torn on whether I should reply/block/erase or some combination.

Why don't you text the ahole back and let him know of your 'displeasure' at his adulterous behavior toward your wife. And you sincere desire to make him physically uncomfortable for his actions, as in kicking his [censored]? And that would be letting him off easy! Some homewreckers get their asses shot off!

D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!